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Affect, Emotions, Feelings, and Mood

The term affect refers to the feeling dimension of life.  It is part of one’s general outward emotional expression.  Someone with a flat affect, for example, displays little or no emotion. The term emotion refers to a relatively specific pattern of short-lived physiological responses. 

Emotions arouse, communicate, direct, and sustain behaviour.  The term feeling refers to the subjective experience of emotion; feelings can be complex experiences, involving several different emotions at once. Finally, the term mood refers to a relatively long-lasting state of feeling.  A mood sets the emotional backdrop for one’s experience of the world.

The Roots of the Self – Dr.Robert Ornstein
- a brilliant scientist

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Symptoms of Inner Peace:

  • A tendency to think and act spontaneously rather than on fears based on past experience.
  • An unmistakable ability to enjoy the moment.
  • A loss of interest in judging other people and your self.
  • A loss of interest in interpreting the actions of others.
  • An inability to worry (this is a very serious symptom!)
  • Frequent overwhelming episodes of appreciation.
  • Frequent acts of smiling.
  • An increasing tendency to let things happen rather than to make them happen.
  • An increased susceptibility to the love extended by others as well as the uncontrollable urge to extend it.
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Classification of Character Strengths: Christopher Peterson, Nansook Park, and Martin E. P. Seligman

Wisdom and Knowledge: cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge.

Creativity:  thinking of novel and productive ways to do things; includes artistic achievement but is not limited to it.

Curiosity and Interest in the World: taking an interest in all of ongoing experience; finding all subjects and topics fascinating; exploring and discovering.

Judgment and Critical Thinking: thinking things through and examining them from all sides; not jumping to conclusions; being able to change one’s mind in light of evidence; weighing all evidence fairly.

Love of Learning: mastering new skills, topics and bodies of knowledge, whether on one’s own or formally; obviously related to the strength of curiosity but goes beyond it to describe the tendency to add systematically to what one knows.

Perspective: being able to provide wise counsel to others; having ways of looking at the world that make sense to self and to other people.

Courage:  emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals in the face of opposition, external or internal.

Bravery: not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty, or pain; speaking up for what is right even if there is opposition: acting on convictions even if unpopular; includes physical bravery but is not limited to it.

Persistence: finishing what one starts; persisting in a course of action in spite of obstacles; “getting it out the door”; taking pleasure in completing tasks.

Authenticity/Honesty:  speaking the truth but more broadly presenting oneself in a genuine way; being without pretense; taking responsibility for one’s feelings and actions.

Vitality: approaching life with excitement and energy; not doing things halfway or half heartedly; living life as an adventure; feeling alive and activated.

Love: interpersonal strengths that involve “tending” and “befriending” others. Intimacy: valuing close relationships with others, in particular those with whom sharing and caring are reciprocated; being close to people.

Kindness: doing favors and good deeds for others; helping them; taking care of them.

Social Intelligence: being aware of the motives and feelings of other people and oneself; knowing what to do to fit in to different social situations; knowing what makes other people tick.

Justice: civic strengths that underlie healthy community life.

Citizenship: working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group; doing one’s share.

Fairness: treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others; giving everyone a fair chance.

Leadership: encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the same time facilitating good relations within the group; organizing group activities and seeing that they happen.

Temperance: strengths that protect against excess.

Forgiveness/Mercy: forgiving those who have done wrong; giving people a second chance; not being vengeful.

Humility/Modesty: letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves; not seeking the spotlight; not regarding oneself as more special than one is.

Prudence: being careful about one’s choices; not taking undue risks; not saying or doing things that might later be regretted.

Self-Regulation: regulating what one feels and does; being disciplined; controlling one’s appetites and emotions.

Transcendence: strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide meaning.

Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence:  noticing and appreciating beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in all domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience.

Gratitude: being aware of and thankful for the good things that happen; taking time to express thanks.

Hope: expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about.

Humour: liking to laugh and tease; bringing smiles to other people; seeing the light side; making (not necessarily telling) jokes.

Spirituality: having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe; knowing where one fits within the larger scheme; having beliefs about the meaning of life that shape conduct and provide comfort.

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Famous Psychologist Quotes

Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine ourselves by the meanings we give to situations. The only normal people are the one's you don't know very well.
Alfred Adler

Without forgiveness life is governed by... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Roberto Assagioli

People who believe they have the power to exercise some measure of control over their lives are healthier, more effective and more successful than those who lack faith in their ability to effect changes in their lives. Albert Bandura

The core of my personality consists of many selves.
Hans Bender

Man can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown. Claude Bernard

An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and judgements simpler through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore. Edward de Bono

If you wait for opportunities to occur, you will be one of the crowd. Many highly intelligent people are poor thinkers. Many people of average intelligence are skilled thinkers. The power of a car is separate from the way the car is driven. Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations. We need creativity in order to break free from the temporary structures that have been set up by a particular sequence of experience. Edward de Bono

Whatever you do, do it with all your might. Work at it, early and late, in season and out of season, not leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well now. P. T. Barnum

The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it. The formation of one's character ought to be everyone's chief aim. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. The future influences the present just as much as the past. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche

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KALIDASA

Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn!
Look to this Day!
For it is Life, the very Life of Life.
In its brief course lie all the
Verities and Realities of your Existence.
The Bliss of Growth,
The Glory of Action,
The Splendor of Beauty;
For Yesterday is but a Dream,
And To-morrow is only a Vision;
But To-day well lived makes
Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,
And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.
Look well therefore to this Day!
Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!
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True art is characterized by an
irresistible urge in the creative artist.
I have no special talent.
I am only passionately curious.
Albert Einstein

It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than to feel yourself into a new way of acting. When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as one's own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists. Under no other circumstances is a state of love present, regardless of the popular usage of the term.
Harry Stack Sullivan

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Desiderata

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender,
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even to the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons;
they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter,
for always there will be greater and
lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time. Exercise caution in your business affairs,
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals,
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love,
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment,
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be.
And whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life,
keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery,
and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.

Desiderata, Latin for “Things to be desired”
was composed by
Max Ehrmann (1872 – 1945),
a poet and lawyer from Terre Haute, Indiana
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Imagine – John Lennon

Imagine there's no Heaven
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today

Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will be as one

Imagine no possessions
I wonder if you can
No need for greed or hunger
A brotherhood of man
Imagine all the people
Sharing all the world

You may say that I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope someday you'll join us
And the world will live as one

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The wisdom of the wise and the experience of the ages are perpetuated by quotations. Benjamin Disraeli