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Affect, Emotions, Feelings, and Mood The term affect refers to the feeling dimension of life. It is part of one’s general outward emotional expression. Someone with a flat affect, for example, displays little or no emotion. The term emotion refers to a relatively specific pattern of short-lived physiological responses. Emotions arouse, communicate, direct, and sustain behaviour. The term feeling refers to the subjective experience of emotion; feelings can be complex experiences, involving several different emotions at once. Finally, the term mood refers to a relatively long-lasting state of feeling. A mood sets the emotional backdrop for one’s experience of the world. The Roots of the Self – Dr.Robert Ornstein Symptoms of Inner Peace:
Classification of Character Strengths: Christopher Peterson, Nansook Park, and Martin E. P. Seligman Wisdom and Knowledge: cognitive strengths that entail the acquisition and use of knowledge. Creativity: thinking of novel and productive ways to do things; includes artistic achievement but is not limited to it. Curiosity and Interest in the World: taking an interest in all of ongoing experience; finding all subjects and topics fascinating; exploring and discovering. Judgment and Critical Thinking: thinking things through and examining them from all sides; not jumping to conclusions; being able to change one’s mind in light of evidence; weighing all evidence fairly. Love of Learning: mastering new skills, topics and bodies of knowledge, whether on one’s own or formally; obviously related to the strength of curiosity but goes beyond it to describe the tendency to add systematically to what one knows. Perspective: being able to provide wise counsel to others; having ways of looking at the world that make sense to self and to other people. Courage: emotional strengths that involve the exercise of will to accomplish goals in the face of opposition, external or internal. Bravery: not shrinking from threat, challenge, difficulty, or pain; speaking up for what is right even if there is opposition: acting on convictions even if unpopular; includes physical bravery but is not limited to it. Persistence: finishing what one starts; persisting in a course of action in spite of obstacles; “getting it out the door”; taking pleasure in completing tasks. Authenticity/Honesty: speaking the truth but more broadly presenting oneself in a genuine
way; being without pretense; taking responsibility for one’s feelings
and actions. Vitality: approaching life with excitement and energy; not doing things halfway or half heartedly; living life as an adventure; feeling alive and activated. Love: interpersonal strengths that involve “tending” and “befriending” others. Intimacy: valuing close relationships with others, in particular those with whom sharing and caring are reciprocated; being close to people. Kindness: doing favors and good deeds for others; helping them; taking care of them. Social Intelligence: being aware of the motives and feelings of other people and oneself; knowing what to do to fit in to different social situations; knowing what makes other people tick. Justice: civic strengths that underlie healthy community life. Citizenship: working well as a member of a group or team; being loyal to the group; doing one’s share. Fairness: treating all people the same according to notions of fairness and justice; not letting personal feelings bias decisions about others; giving everyone a fair chance. Leadership: encouraging a group of which one is a member to get things done and at the same time facilitating good relations within the group; organizing group activities and seeing that they happen. Temperance: strengths that protect against excess. Forgiveness/Mercy: forgiving those who have done wrong; giving people a second chance; not being vengeful. Humility/Modesty: letting one’s accomplishments speak for themselves; not seeking the spotlight; not regarding oneself as more special than one is. Prudence: being careful about one’s choices; not taking undue risks; not saying or doing things that might later be regretted. Self-Regulation: regulating what one feels and does; being disciplined; controlling one’s appetites and emotions. Transcendence: strengths that forge connections to the larger universe and provide meaning. Appreciation of Beauty and Excellence: noticing and appreciating beauty, excellence, and/or skilled performance in all domains of life, from nature to art to mathematics to science to everyday experience. Gratitude: being aware of and thankful for the good things that happen; taking time to express thanks. Hope: expecting the best in the future and working to achieve it; believing that a good future is something that can be brought about. Humour: liking to laugh and tease; bringing smiles to other people; seeing the light side; making (not necessarily telling) jokes. Spirituality: having coherent beliefs about the higher purpose and meaning of the universe; knowing where one fits within the larger scheme; having beliefs about the meaning of life that shape conduct and provide comfort. --------------------------------------------------------------------------- Meanings are not determined by situations, but we determine
ourselves by the meanings we give to situations. The only normal people are the one's you don't know very
well. Without forgiveness life is governed by... an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation. Roberto Assagioli People who believe they have the power to exercise some measure of control over their lives are healthier, more effective and more successful than those who lack faith in their ability to effect changes in their lives. Albert Bandura The core of my personality consists of many selves. Man can learn nothing except by going from the known to the unknown. Claude Bernard An expert is someone who has succeeded in making decisions and judgements simpler through knowing what to pay attention to and what to ignore. Edward de Bono If you wait for opportunities to occur, you will be one of the crowd. Many highly intelligent people are poor thinkers. Many people of average intelligence are skilled thinkers. The power of a car is separate from the way the car is driven. Unhappiness is best defined as the difference between our talents and our expectations. We need creativity in order to break free from the temporary structures that have been set up by a particular sequence of experience. Edward de Bono Whatever you do, do it with all your might. Work at it, early and late, in season and out of season, not leaving a stone unturned, and never deferring for a single hour that which can be done just as well now. P. T. Barnum The person born with a talent they are meant to use will find their greatest happiness in using it. The formation of one's character ought to be everyone's chief aim. Whatever you can do, or dream you can, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe It is not a lack of love, but a lack of friendship that makes unhappy marriages. The future influences the present just as much as the past. That which does not kill us makes us stronger. Friedrich Nietzsche --------------------------------------------------------------------------- KALIDASA Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn! It is easier to act yourself into a new way of feeling than
to feel yourself into a new way of acting. When the satisfaction or the security of another person
becomes as significant to one as one's own satisfaction or security,
then the state of love exists. Under no other circumstances is a state
of love present, regardless of the popular usage of the term. Desiderata Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, Imagine – John Lennon The wisdom of the wise and the experience of the ages are perpetuated by quotations. Benjamin Disraeli |
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